Unrecognised beneficial side effects of healing activities.
Typically, people come to a therapist to resolve a particular issue such as anxiety, phobia, depression, relationship and self-esteem problems or to change a behaviour such as smoking or unhealthy eating. Well trained, experienced therapists will assist such people properly towards these goals. However, it is surprising how often unintended benefits materialise as the therapeutic process unfolds.
Sometimes these unintended benefits turn out to be far more significant and beneficial than the resolving of the presenting problem. In some cases, the benefit is seen in a third party, not involved in therapy, but who is connected in some way to the client.
I believe these “unintended clearings” happen because the healing environment created during good therapy creates the space and security that allow often-unacknowledged issues to come forth to be addressed. I would also say that deeper healing environments allow more profound issues to emerge, with more beneficial results. Truly deep healing engages with the collective unconscious and can directly operate on someone not directly involved in the therapy.
Some of these experiences emerge and resolve spontaneously, while others simply come to the surface, in which case the client can choose whether to address them or not. Except in the case of spontaneous resolution, it is the client’s conscious choice whether or not to pursue the opportunity that arises.
Below are just a few examples of such unexpected healings. While the sense of these stories is accurate, they have been generalised, with details changed to anonymise them.
It is important to realise that when it comes to resolving your anxiety that you are far more of an expert than any therapist. The problem was created within your system; therefore, your system knows how it was set up. By definition, if your system knows how the anxiety was set up, then it also knows how to take it down again.
The problem is that you do not have conscious access to this knowledge. If you had, you would resolve it yourself. You wouldn’t need a therapist. This inner knowledge is not consciously available because it is held at a deeper level. It is unconscious.
Most well-known modern therapy approaches are based on logic or conscious mind thinking. The mantra “Change your thoughts and change your world” could well describe the basis of many of these. However, most “difficult to shift” issues of anxiety are lodged so deeply and sometimes painfully that conscious attempts to control or resolve them can be limited. Indeed, there is some evidence that after a couple of years people who have undergone these approaches fare no better than those who received no therapy.
Having trained and indeed qualified in quite a few modern and not so modern approaches to resolving anxiety, I have found that approaches which specifically work with the unconscious tend to get better and more lasting results. Hypnotherapy is one of these. Energy Psychology is another.
However, I have found that perhaps more important than any approach is the connection between you the client and me your therapist. A truly good connection makes everything easier. It is free-flowing and safe. This connection facilitates access to guidance from deep inside you which not only tells us “where we need to go” to resolve the issue, but also what to do when we get there. While there can often be common themes, it is surprising how often the roots of anxiety in clients with very similar issues can be so different.
Clearing an anxiety issue at its roots will almost always mean that the anxiety will resolve and you can continue your life in a much more normal way, without the need to manage it. In most cases the clearing will involve physical changes in the body: Clients often report unpleasant feelings or sensations just dissolving. People tend to feel more relaxed and lighter afterwards.
If you’d like to know more feel free to contact me. I would love to work with you.
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