Unrecognised beneficial side effects of healing activities.
Typically, people come to a therapist to resolve a particular issue such as anxiety, phobia, depression, relationship and self-esteem problems or to change a behaviour such as smoking or unhealthy eating. Well trained, experienced therapists will assist such people properly towards these goals. However, it is surprising how often unintended benefits materialise as the therapeutic process unfolds.
Sometimes these unintended benefits turn out to be far more significant and beneficial than the resolving of the presenting problem. In some cases, the benefit is seen in a third party, not involved in therapy, but who is connected in some way to the client.
I believe these “unintended clearings” happen because the healing environment created during good therapy creates the space and security that allow often-unacknowledged issues to come forth to be addressed. I would also say that deeper healing environments allow more profound issues to emerge, with more beneficial results. Truly deep healing engages with the collective unconscious and can directly operate on someone not directly involved in the therapy.
Some of these experiences emerge and resolve spontaneously, while others simply come to the surface, in which case the client can choose whether to address them or not. Except in the case of spontaneous resolution, it is the client’s conscious choice whether or not to pursue the opportunity that arises.
Below are just a few examples of such unexpected healings. While the sense of these stories is accurate, they have been generalised, with details changed to anonymise them.
Resolving Fear and Anxiety
There are many, many approaches to treating Anxiety and no one approach can be said to be better than another. However, within the therapeutic setting, matching the correct approach to the specific situation can result in a much gentler and faster healing process.
Good therapists will be trained and experienced in many different approaches. More importantly they will have the experience and ability to pick up on the subtle cues that appear during a session and adapt their approach to the situation.
If you come to me I will be focussed on you, not on techniques. I will be listening and tuned to your story on many levels. Often there is no need for techniques or recognised approaches, as in the right environment even a simple chat can result significant improvement. If particular approaches are needed, that will emerge as we work.
When I work with you it is in a spirit of partnership and care, acting as a guide, assisting you to that place where healing takes place and difficulties resolve. You can start living again.
The time it takes to resolve an Anxiety issue can vary. Often only one session is required, only rarely do I need to see a client more than five times, two to four being typical. Even those who come with seemingly intractable issues are often surprised at how quickly and easily they move forward.
I would be delighted to work with you!
Fear is a necessary part of the human psyche. When it is at healthy levels it helps propel you into action and even achievement. It causes you to be careful when you may be at risk. It protects you from danger. When you experience healthy levels of fear you tend to be in balance and function well in your life. Unfortunately, unhealthy levels of fear abound in modern society and when left unchecked can cause great difficulty for the sufferers.
General Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Phobias, Obsessional Behaviour and Paranoia can all be regarded as indicators of the presence of unhealthy levels of fear, more commonly known as anxiety.
The roots of these anxiety symptoms can be quite varied: Inadequately dealt with traumatic experiences, prolonged difficult or challenging life situations, bullying, poverty, parental imprinting, genetics and substance abuse are some but by no means all the possible causes.
The good news is that regardless of cause, for most people anxiety is eminently treatable.